Depressed, sad, alone, angry and lonely. Those are only a few feelings a person could feel when the one they thought was the one had left them.
Break ups are never easy, and will never be easy. It takes time, effort and a forgiving compassionate heart to forgive and move on.
Break ups can either make you or break you. It can even drive someone crazy, crazy enough to send them into psychiatric hospitals. Being alone after a relationship is a huge challenge, because you got so used to it that everything became a habit. When break ups happen we long for our partner. We miss their good morning messages, their I love you babes and the warmth of their bodies when you cuddle. It’s only but normal to miss all those, We’re only human as they say.
But when does the pain end? When would the longing stop? I once read an article that the only way to move on is to let your self experience the pain. So what does that mean? It means that in order to move on you need to resolve every feelings you have. Feel and experience the sadness and the pain and mourn the loss. Dont deny yourself of the pain. It is there for a reason, and the reason is for you to feel it. It may be a bad feeling, a uncomfortable one but you need it to move on.
Now, how do you do it?
Before anything else, you need to acknowledge that the relationship has failed, and that it is over. Setting your mind to it will help you ease into moving on. Next is allow yourself to mourn, talk to family or friends. nothing is better than talking to someone really close to you and would make you feel you’re not alone in this troubling times. Then try to preoccupy yourself, do activities you dont normally do. Do something that you and your partner wouldnt do when you were a couple. Doing unfamiliar things will help you forget about them. Lastly always remember that moving on takes time, its never easy but the main key here is patience. A person can never jump into a new relationship without resolving the past. A clear past will blossom into a more beautiful future.